Kids vs. Time and Money

The exorbitant MONEY wasted on dragged-out custody battles could better be spent on:

  1. starting college funds for all the kids
  2. field trips
  3. a treat lunch to McDonald’s (a treat for them, tolerated by us)
  4. books
  5. groceries
  6. phone calls to the kids
  7. food
  8. clothes
  9. gas for trips to the library, trips to see the kids, etc.
  10. shoes
  11. school supplies
  12. socks and underwear
  13. dental care
  14. medical check-ups
  15. educational trips
  16. kids’ savings accounts
  17. donations to the kids’ schools
  18. donations to charities that serve children
  19. the kids’ Christmas and birthday gifts and parties
  20. crayons
  21. paper
  22. night lights to chase away the monsters

The exorbitant TIME wasted on dragged-out custody battles could better be spent:

  1. hugging the kids
  2. laughing at the kids’ made-up knock-knock jokes
  3. playing hide and seek
  4. reading books out loud and making up parts of the stories
  5. practicing multiplication tables
  6. snuggling
  7. running races in the yard
  8. making something together
  9. drying tears
  10. finding shapes in the clouds
  11. baking cookies with the kids
  12. coloring pictures outside the lines
  13. counting stars
  14. making wishes
  15. helping the kids adjust to this situation
  16. reminding the kids this isn’t their fault
  17. talking through the kids’ feelings about the divorce
  18. building new lives
  19. settling into a new home
  20. healing
  21. learning to work together as co-parents
  22. singing the ABC’s
  23. planning the future
  24. loving each other
  25. moving on
  26. teaching the kids important lessons about getting along, sharing, and compromising
  27. setting a good example for their future romantic relationships and how to treat others
  28. telling the kids “I love you, and always will, no matter what else happens”

**What can you add to these lists?**


About TheSmirkingCat

I am endlessly trying to make sense of a world that has completely and unapologetically lost its mind.
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8 Responses to Kids vs. Time and Money

  1. furiousBall says:

    isn’t divorce the best? the only thing worse in my opinion is marriage.

  2. Smirking Cat says:

    Divorce is no picnic, but it’s absolutely senseless to punish the kids for it. It’s downright pathetic how so many people get so caught up in their revenge vendetta against the other parent that they forget about the kids entirely.

  3. Metro says:

    throwing water balloonsmaking snowmenspitting watermelon seedsplanting flowersstaring at a full moonholding handsThanks for the list. If only more people felt this way . . .< HREF="" REL="nofollow">Eric B<>

  4. zarlyng says:

    “Setting a good example for their future romantic relationships and how to treat others”.I’ve wondered many, many times what the girls consider ‘normal’ in terms of how to treat people, and if they follow their mother’s example of romantic relationships or ours. I pray that they see ours as how people should act and treat their partners.And I have a few more:Not missing scheduled activities.Actually enjoying time spent with the kids, instead of worrying about how my actions as a stepparent will be reported.

  5. Stephanie says:

    I love the whole list. My Hubby and I often say, “We could have spent that $90K on a sincerely awesome vacation… or moving to someplace far, far away!” But in reality, we could have done so much more for the kiddos if we hadn’t spent it all just fighting for their basic well-being.It’s so frustrating.

  6. You have such a great outlook on how to keep the kids first thru a divorce, etc. and I feel I must toss this out at ya considering your education, background, etc… Please put your vision, skills and experience to work thru getting involved with family counseling programs in your area. I think you could help sooooo many people see that they their adult problems should never involve the kids as they are the only ones who truly suffer. You have such great insight and perspective that is truly rare to find these days. đŸ™‚

  7. Smirking Cat says:

    It’s definitely something I’m considering; kids need advocates to protect them (and knock sense into adults who refuse to cooperate any other sensible way!)

  8. Mister-M says:

    Going to a hockey game to watch the Flyers beat the Lightning?< HREF="" REL="nofollow">The Psycho Ex-Wife<>

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