*I will never again watch the news, read the paper, or hear of someone who has been arrested, and make snap judgments as if I know the person or their life situation, or their character or heart.
*I will discover strength I had no clue I had, hidden deep somewhere I didn’t know to look, and surprise myself at what I can endure and keep going.
*I will never, ever take for granted another moment with Gary, or with anyone I love.
*My compassion for others and ability to listen without judging will grow wings and make me a better person.
*I will learn what is truly important. Things I used to spend so much time on, checking my blog stats, things that seem so painfully trivial now, used to feel so meaningful. Compared to what I have lost–Gary being here, spending time with him, watching him with the kids–anything else never really mattered, but I lacked the wisdom to see that.
*I have learned that I have the greatest friends and blog friends anyone could have, and my heart swells with gratitude for the help of my friends, the phone calls offering any assistance, the emails encouraging me to hang in there, the comments here that let me know I’m really not alone.
*I will keep the United States Post Office in business with all the stamps I will use, writing letters and pouring my heart onto paper so he knows how much I love him and miss him, and that I’m right here waiting.
*That none of us, not me, not you, ever really know what it is like to be in someone else’s shoes, their lives, their heart, and understand what they are going through…that judging someone is a luxury of one who has not suffered.