I’ve had a lot of e-mails from readers asking me why I haven’t been able to see or talk to the kids in so long (currently 55 days). I suppose it’s only fair that if I put the counter front and center on my blog, that I explain what is going on. I get into detail on my private blog that I won’t get into here, but here are the basic, public-record facts: Gary’s ex filed for sole custody. When Gary’s response was filed, the children were then no longer permitted to call me, receive emails from me, visit with me, or have contact with me. They are also not permitted to speak with their father. My hopes and prayers for the kids:

  • That they never doubt how much their father and I love them, no matter what they are told about us in our forced absence.
  • That their hearts remain pure and open, even as they get older and gain understanding of what is being done.
  • That they are safe and healthy.
  • That they learn at least what NOT to do from this situation.
  • That their hearts aren’t destroyed when they realize, someday, that all of this was entirely, maddeningly avoidable.

*Photo courtesy of Parental Alienation Solutions*

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I am endlessly trying to make sense of a world that has completely and unapologetically lost its mind.
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19 Responses to Explanation

  1. Marmee says:

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  2. Mean Stepmom says:

    It is so sad that the children become pawns in custody disputes. I’m sure the children are confused and wonder why their daddy has vanished from their lives (but chances are they have been lied to). I’m sorry you and Gary are having to go through this. How old are the children?

  3. Smirking Cat says:

    The kids are 9, 6, 4, and 2. They are everything in the world to their dad, and vice versa, and beautiful to watch them all together.

  4. Samantha says:

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  5. kristi says:

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  6. dragonmctt says:

    In the past, DH was also forced to have no contact with his boys for several months. It was horrible to not know where they were, and feel like there was nothing we could do. It all turned out for the best in the end, and in fact helped him eventually get residential custody. I’m hoping that in the future you are able to use this time apart as a reason to close the door on her getting sole custody. Hang in there!

  7. OMG, I wondered about the counter as well. I am so sorry! I can’t imagine how hard it must be for all of you. So many times the kids are the ones getting hurt for the adults’ mistakes. I hope the courts will see that it is in the best interest of the children to have all of you in their lives.

  8. dragonmctt says:

    Hey, I was just thinking, I don’t know the specifics of everything, but is she denying visitation for his parents too? That won’t look good for her at all!

  9. starshine30 says:

    I know that they miss you so much! I think about them a lot actually…her actions will damage their spirits and their hearts more than she will ever know. And one day she will regret the damamge she caused

  10. Smirking Cat says:

    Dragonmctt, Gary’s parents unfortunately passed away, so they aren’t here to see all of this. Gary has often said that might be a blessing, for them, because it would break their hearts to see what is happening to the kids.

  11. Amy says:

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  12. dragonmctt says:

    I agree with Gary, it would be very hard on his parents. I also feel for you, though, as they would have been another system of support right now for you. I’m thinking good karmic thoughts that everything goes back to the way it should be.

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  14. Blueyd says:

    I just don’t understand why people do stuff like this. Kids are resilient, but this is just wrong.

  15. KiKi says:

    “For the good of the children”“Best interest of the kids”I keep seeing these “reasons” on blogs by frustrated parents who keep getting the short end of the stick from their exes, who are really more concerned with their own feelings/egos than anything else.Disgusts me that you are going through this. I’m feeling very bitter right now.

  16. Dijea says:

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  17. I wanna read the private blog…How do I get in??? Is there a secret password? Handshake? Ooooh…do we get a ring???

  18. Marmee says:

    I want to read your private blog too! Will you let me in, pretty please with kittens on top?

  19. Smirking Cat says:

    I’m a little behind adding new readers to the private blog, but I will add you to my list!

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