Would you be terribly surprised to know that:
* 40% of divorced mothers admitted to punishing their former husbands by denying visitation with their children.
* Parents of more than six million children have interfered with court-ordered visitation.
* Half of divorced fathers complain of their visitation rights being denied.
(Source: Management of Visitation Interference, by Ira Daniel Turkat)
Judging from many of the blogs I read, not many regular readers will be surprised at all. The author of the referenced article discusses Divorce-Related Malicious Mother Syndrome as well, describing this syndrome as different from Parental Alienation Syndrome in this way: “Women with this syndrome interfere chronically with visitation. Though they also engage in serious attempts to alienate the child from the father, they are not always successful. Thus, a full parental alienation syndrome is not required for a diagnosis of divorce-related malicious mother syndrome.”
Just a few typical behaviors of these mothers:
* attempting to alienate their child(ren) from the father;
* involving others in malicious actions against the father;
* engaging in excessive litigation.
Turkat concludes, “Such an individual appears to lack a true desire to change, which indicates therapy probably would not be effective. A person who will lie on the witness stand is just as likely to lie to a therapist.”
It’s hard to read these descriptions, to recognize them intimately in people I know, and then imagine children in the care of such people. Family court continues to disgust and horrify me…but not nearly as much as parents like this do.
Related post: Malicious Mother Syndrome