What If…

What if….

…the kids were released from their emotional bondages and permitted to love their father and me without fear,sanction, or being forced to feel like they are doing something wrong?

…the kids were not interviewed about what was said and done at our house, and were allowed to simply enjoy their time with both parents?

…the focus shifted from revenge, egos, and score-keeping, to helping the kids heal and grow?

…all the adults in this situation realized that the kids are learning how to handle conflict and relationships by watching us…and realized that what the kids are learning right now is downright horrific and shameful?

…instead of scouring the Internet for dirt to use against me, that time and energy was placed into self-improvement and making choices that benefit the kids?

…lawyers refused to accept cases that assisted poisonous parents with their hateful cause?

…poisonous parents were actually held accountable for their actions?

What if…the kids’ emotional well-being and best interests really were what it was all about?

*Grow Up drawing courtesy of IdiomsByKids.com*


About TheSmirkingCat

I am endlessly trying to make sense of a world that has completely and unapologetically lost its mind.
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8 Responses to What If…

  1. Heather says:

    The neocon, hyper-religious, holier-than-thou, pretentious crowd that I grew up with would use this as evidence why divorce should never be tolerated and why you should always only ever put children into a situation where a man and a woman are married and holy and good. It’s unfair, it’s unfair, it’s unfair, it’s unfair (no, I’m not just pasting, I’m typing it over and over), IT’S ALWAYS UNFAIR. I have to keep believing that there is a way to work these situations out for the good of everyone involved, especially the kids(I hope you all have a good reunion when Gary gets home.)

  2. lord i know where your comin’ from… i have a 7yr old stepson… he lives in oklahoma with his mom and we live here in georgia… and just yesterday his mom called us and said “from now on, you guys will not speak to him, see him, nothing- you get nothing at all unless you take me to court”- it breaks my heart that we as adults insist on putting the precious children thru so much! much luck to you… and im so happy that gary will be home soon!

  3. Smirking Cat says:

    It shouldn’t require going to court to act like the kids have rights and that their feelings matter.

  4. Amy says:

    Wouldn’t it be nice if all the parents involved acted like adults and set an adult example for the kids? I know that there are people out there that do it. Relationships where both sets of adults put the kids needs first. It should be mandatory before having children. Isn’t that a dream world?

  5. in a perfect world it certainly would not require going to court…. i never get the animosity involved sometimes. i want to stand up on a roof top and yell that they are only children…. and children (like you said) DO have feelings also!

  6. macocha says:

    the what if answer…then we would live in a perfect world where everyone had white picket fences and apple pie cooling on their window sills. you ask the same questions I ask daily as well…or at least every other day.

  7. Blueydmuse says:

    If that were really what it was about, the people like Cruella and Gary’s ex would have to find something else to do. And lawyers wouldn’t make so much money.

  8. Stephanie says:

    What if, indeed. Wouldn’t it be lovely?

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