Everyone seems doomed to know at least one: that individual who thrives on drama, whips up drama like instant pudding if there is not enough currently present to sustain their addiction, who pulls no punches in playing the ultimate persecuted victim. Like roaches and hangnails, these people serve no yet-discovered purpose but are bothersome to eradicate.
According to Lynne Forrest, author of Drama Queens, Saviours, Resuers, Feigners, and Attention-Seekers, “Human beings are social creatures and need social interaction, feedback, and validation of their worth. The emotionally mature person doesn’t need to go hunting for these; they gain it naturally from their daily life, especially from their work and from stable relationships. …It may be that the need for attention is inversely proportional to emotional maturity, therefore anyone indulging in attention-seeking behaviours is telling you how emotionally immature they are.”
Immature is not a word I’m surprised to find associated with drama queens (and kings), since their playground tactics, theatrics, woe-is-me melodrama, and “Look at me!” hysterics reek of puerile poo. Behaving like an adult apparently causes them severe nausea and unbearable distress, and if you have the audacity to take the higher road (not particularly difficult to do with someone slinking along at subterranean depths), they will screech like a gassy baby who dropped a binky, toss themselves into a frenzied tantrum, and hurl accusations in hopes of drawing you down to their cellar sustenance.
There are several types of attention-seekers, according to Ms. Forrest, including: organizers, manipulators, mind-poisoners, drama queens, busy bees, feigners, false confessors, the abused, the online victim, and the victim.
For instance, a manipulator “may exploit family relationships, manipulating others with guilt and distorting perceptions; …Vulnerable family members are favourite targets.”
Vulnerable family members…like children?
The mind poisoner is “adept at poisoning peoples’ minds by manipulating their perceptions of others, especially against the current target.”
Like an alienating parent?
For the drama queen, “every incident or opportunity, no matter how insignificant, is exploited, exaggerated and if necessary distorted to become an event of dramatic proportions. …Histrionics may be present where the person feels she is not the centre of attention but should be.”
This certainly sounds like someone I know. In fact, almost all of them do. Is it a chemical imbalance or simply a hyper-inflated ego that allows a human being to suppose all life forms and all events within the solar system and beyond should rightfully revolve around them?
My first reaction to this person’s histrionics was semi-amused disbelief at a supposed adult throwing a full-blown temper tantrum and expecting to be taken seriously instead of given a much-deserved spanking. My reactions now are just a shake of the head at the continued pathetic grand-standing and then feeling sorry for someone whose emotional maturity will never extend beyond hopelessly juvenile.
Drama queens and kings are playground bullies dependent upon the most mindless and least intelligent means to petulantly demand attention to themselves, feeding on their ability to upset others, somehow overlooking the fact that drawing attention for being a spoiled crybaby brat is something that mature adults would not take such pride in. I suppose being incapable or unwilling to rise above drama-inducing behavior stunts all growth, intellectual and emotional and otherwise, and renders the drama queen or king a permanently diapered, whining, hissy-fitting toddler with no ambition to advance beyond reptilian thought processes.
No offense to toddlers or reptiles.