There are simple moments when one of the kids reaches for my hand, or settles into my lap, or asks me a question and then waits for my answer, face turned up to me expectantly, that I feel my heart suddenly break at their unquestioning trust…their absolute, unwavering belief that because I love them, I won’t hurt them.
I know their trust has been defecated upon by others in their lives who greedily twist and use that trust, who take something so beautiful and foul it obscenely. To knowingly, repeatedly, lie to a child is a shameful act of cowardice and abuse.
The question “Why does she lie to me?” is painful to hear, yet also infuriating. It is not a question I should have to try to answer. How do I explain why someone they love and trust has deliberately hurt them, over and over, and has gone to great lengths to continue to do so?
How do you teach a child to be honest and truthful when they are bombarded with daily examples of someone who lies to them, lies about them, and even worse, demands that they lie for her? Immersed in ugly lies and vehement denials of reality, how do they ever learn what is real, what is right, and above all, how to keep their hearts from absorbing the fetid, decayed seepage of someone else’s rotted heart?
“The only thing worse than a liar, is a liar that’s also a hypocrite!” ~ Tennessee Williams