Field Trip

Last school year, Gary missed out on nearly every single one of the kids’ field trips or events because, well, letting him know about the kids’ events was just too damn peskily parental.  This year, at least token gestures have been made to let him know about scattered events here and there, and he chaperoned one of Wolverine’s field trips recently.

After years of being fed lies about the children’s horrible, violent, cheating, and terrifying father, the entire town where the kids live now (all 50 humanoid in-bred townsfolk) have seemingly conserved their scarce brain cells for picking their remaining teeth and getting matching crooked hair chops instead of thinking for themselves.  Almost every time Gary meets someone from that backward town for the first time, he is met with tight-lipped “I know who you are” self-righteousness, rudeness, and outright ignorance.  I don’t know whether to laugh or to just shake my head when I see the lightbulb fighting to light up above their brainwashed heads as they speak with him and discover- A-HA!- that just maybe, not everything they have been spoon-fed is actually true. 

Wolverine and Gary had a great time on the field trip, and Gary watched his first 3-D IMAX film.  Gary was excited later that night, telling me about the film, Wolverine’s friends, how all the girls wanted to sit next to Wolverine (not that we picked on Wolverine about this later…nah!)  Listening to Gary, I was touched how he couldn’t stop talking about it, how he enjoyed every moment with Wolverine, and how much the day meant to him. 

I ws also struck by the education that Wolverine’s teachers must have received that day.  I have seen Gary on the playground and on the beach with large crowds of kids, so I already know what inevitably happens: drawn by his loud laugh, his energy, kids end up circling him like he is a toy.  It must have been more than a little astounding for Wolverine’s teachers to watch the man they’ve been warned all about become the center of the kids’ attention.

I can imagine their shock when, instead of showing up drunk, swinging his caveman club, offering the kids a swig from his paper-bag-wrapped bottle, dragging the females by the hair, he instead laughed, joked, and played, talking with the kids, enjoying his time with them.  I hope it was a much-needed lesson for the other adults there to not believe the hot air that swells out of every vindictive, bovine windbag.

Listening to Gary talk about his day with Wolverine, I had to smile.  He truly loves days like that, days he used to be able to share with the kids just because. 

The kids and their dad shouldn’t have ended up like pen pals who rarely see each other.   No one with the proverbial best interests of the kids would ever have supported this situation, or would have put so much energy into perpetuating it. 

I’m glad he and Wolverine got to spend the day together, and I’m glad Wolverine’s teachers got to remove the blinders placed on their eyes by years of lies and got to see Gary the way the kids see him: caring, fun, active, involved, madly in love with his kids.

It’s hard to imagine anyone having a problem with that.

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7 Responses to Field Trip

  1. Amy says:

    I hate it when parents/grandparents try to come between the child and the parent. Well, unless the child is in danger. We're dealing with that now with my the paternal grandpa. He has told my son that he will do everything he can to come between my son and his baby. It will probably what makes their whole case turn nasty and end up in court.

    Glad Gary got to have a good time with his son!

  2. Courtney says:

    We get a similar though less extreme form of this mis-information. TD is constantly warned about her dad's “temper”, which in a year and a half I have never seen. One day she didn't want me to tell him something because she was scared, so I told her we don't keep secrets, then told him, then asked her where his temper was. She got it and I haven't heard about it the dreaded “temper” since. Ugh.

  3. furiousBall says:

    People always judge and it sucks that they do prior to knowing someone. Glad to hear Gary and Wolverine had a blast. Good job you guys, you're doing it right 🙂

  4. and i say..
    RIGHT ON GARY!!!

  5. ChapmansRus says:

    We had a similar thing happen recently when Hubby started emailing teachers about progress reports & asking about how his girls are doing.. they seemed shocked that he was asking, because he's supposed to be the guy who abandoned them & replaced them with his new family.. even though we came along after the fact..

    It's disgusting how people can be so naive… whatever happened to the old adage “Don't believe everything you hear” Good Grief!

  6. Smirking Cat says:

    I agree that even a shred of common sense should tell someone not to believe everything they hear about someone's ex, for crying out loud…when that level of common sense is missing from supposed educators, that is downright scary.

  7. Hooray for Gary and Wolverine! Isn't it just amazing when the dads show up and blow the lid off the conceptions teachers hold? The Kid's school was told that my husband was a drug addict and shouldn't be allowed on school property and that's why The Kid's name was changed and he didn't see his dad. A few years later, when mommy dearest got a boyfriend, suddenly dad was picking up his son from school, greeting the teachers and following up on missed homework – completely sober (duh!), genial and involved in his son's life. Most of them apologized for thinking otherwise, and it was a great feeling to watch him get the respect he deserves.
    I'm so very glad your family got to experience this.

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