The other day, a friend of ours vented about his ex-wife trying to sabotage his summer vacation with the kids by calling them, telling them their father was going to take them away and not bring them back, cryptically urging them to be careful about mysterious bad things that would surely befall them only while with their father, and planting as many seeds as she could to destroy their time together. His ex went to great extremes to eliminate their time together over Father’s Day weekend by taking one of the children to the emergency room, for no apparent reason, when he was supposed to pick them up.
None of these tricks are any different than Crow’s. The mentality is the same: damn whatever damage the children suffer, as long as she feels like she interfered in some way and pleased herself.
It is not a mentality to which I can relate. When I got divorced many years ago, I was sad and disappointed, but my focus was healing, moving on, and rebuilding my life. Meddling with his life didn’t cross my mind. Maybe that’s because I had a life of my own with which to concern myself. It’s not surprising, I suppose, that a middle-aged loser like Crow who lives with her parents has to syphon any semblance of a life from her ex-husband.
What happens in someone’s mind to justify lying to a child, as long as it hurts the other parent in some manner? Are people like Crow certifiable nutcases before the divorce, or does the divorce process ignite selfishness and insanity? It’s not inevitable; I am divorced and have never even thought about behaving the shameful way Crow does, or our friend’s ex-wife does, on a routine basis.
The similarity of their tactics, their lies, their manipulations, their willingness to destroy the children, is nauseating. If you’re going to be a crazy bitch, can’t you at least be original?
I try to find solace in the fact that I can’t understand thinking that way or wanting to live that way. It lets me know that I am on a higher level; it lets me know I would not destroy the kids in order to feel….what, exactly? What positive feelings can you possibly take away from abusing, manipulating, and emotionally molesting a child?
Perhaps Crow will leave a comment and enlighten us. She is, after all, the indisputable expert on abusing a child for kicks.